Counsellor’s are professionals who are trained to listen to their clients with empathy and without judgment, and it is within this supportive relationship that the right atmosphere is created for healing past hurts and exploring present difficulties. The counselling environment will allow you the time and space to express whatever you need to and at a pace that is right for you. The counsellor can help you to gain a better understanding of your feelings and thought processes, as well as identifying ways of finding your own solutions to problems and encourage you, where appropriate, to take personal responsibility for them.
Counselling can help you work through a specific issue or problem that has arisen in your life or it can help you explore longer term issues that are preventing you from feeling OK in the present. The exploration of your thoughts and feelings within a trusting and holding environment allows you to gain greater clarity and understanding of current issues. The relationship established between the counsellor and client is all important as it is through the creation of a trusting alliance that the therapeutic work begins and an increased sense of well-being and of being supported in life can be felt by the client.
It can often be useful for clients new to counselling to visit more than one counsellor before agreeing to work with them so that they can sample different ways of working. That said, we often know when we meet someone that it just ‘feels right’ to work with them (or not), and this intuitive response can be an important ally in all our interactions with others.
It can be a great relief to share your experiences with someone who acknowledges your feelings and is able to assist you to reach a more positive position within yourself. Counselling can be helpful for many areas of life including (but not exclusively)
substance misuse and other addictive behaviours
bereavement and loss / grief relationship breakdown
redundancy or work-related stress
issues around sexual identity
issues that are preventing you from achieving your ambitions
feelings of depression or sadness
Through the process of counselling you can start to understand yourself and your problems better, feel more confident and develop a better understanding of other people’s points of view.
Often it takes a number of sessions before the counselling starts to make a difference, and a regular commitment is required to make the best use of the therapy.